FEELING LUCKY IS JUST AN ATTITUDE !!!

The human mind has the inherent habit of linking situations and persons to outcomes and deriving a conclusion predicting a probabilistic hypothesis of what is to happen in such-and-such situations if so-and-so persons are involved... A major consequence of such repeated analyses is the concept of associating a certain "Favouritism" or "Luckiness" or their absence to certain persons or things or occasions or their combinations...

Certain persons are considered to be simply "Lucky", the observation being that the groups they are a part of often wins or that a good wish they make for others has come true many a times... I remember my Sanskrit Sir making me a part of our school parade even by keeping me in the middle row though I wasn't good enough just because I was considered "Lucky"!!!

Finally coming to the point, what is this sense of Luck all about??? As far as I am concerned, I am indeed lucky to be amidst such a sweet family and so supportive friend and aquaintances... Most of us are lucky this way, but, only when we realize it... Luck is all around us, only we need to realize it and give it the due credit of making things smooth and enjoyable for us...

I have often seen people around me in adverse conditions still feeling lucky just thanking God that only the bad happened to them and not the worse... On the other hand, there are people in could-be-cheerful conditions being gloomy exclaiming their anguish over things they could not have and proclaiming that they are always the unluckiest... So, this conception of luck is derived from and realized inside one's own mentality...

Some people are always happy that induce happiness among others... They are loved and their words taken seriously and worked upon so that they come true and they are tagged "Lucky"... Some people are forever afraid of attempting anything new and of the consequences... Others are bold and with proper hardwork succeed in achieving whatever they want... These people and others around them feel a hint of luck always lingering around them, the reality being that they have won their own luck...

The conception of luck is created and believed by man... It can often be used constructively for our own development... Imagine if someone were to tell you now that this day this place is lucky for you to achieve whatever you want... In case we were a luck-believing person, obviously we would guide ourselves to achievement and happiness... So, why not tell that to us every day, every moment until this becomes our belief and attitude... Well, as far as I am concerned, I am a very lucky person for myself... And that is my very attitude... Now what about you??? 

RIGHT OR WRONG???

Human being has always had an inbuilt tendency to do things what she or he feels right and going against whatever is felt incorrect. Various religions and Spiritual Gurus have always strived to let people know to differentiate between the correct and incorrect and mythology has always proved the fact that the right-doer is always rewarded and the wrong-doer always punished. Earlier society was simple and over generations of similar experiences, it could be easily decided what is correct and what is incorrect. In today’s changing structure of society, where every relationship is different and every situation is different, maybe we cannot always decide the validity of a decision by previous experience or social Guidelines. The same thing may be classified as correct by someone and someone else may still interpret it otherwise. What needs to be understood is that clearly the terms “Right” and “Wrong” are just the two extremities of a wide spectrum of decisions such as partially correct, partially incorrect, that-would-have-struck-in-that-situation, best thing to do at that time and many more. We definitely cannot classify everything viewing it just from a particular angle.

According to me, every person is always correct according to himself. He always acts in the most suitable way he can think of in a particular situation. For a student cheating in an Examination, maybe the thought strikes him that if he fails, he would be upsetting the expectations of his parents and be joked in his friend circle. When a robber steals, maybe he thinks his theft is necessary to support his family or to give all luxury to his people. What the two in the above cases don’t realize is the fact that there are other better and healthier ways to achieve what they want. But, their thinking at that time permits them only to establish their acts as correct in front of themselves. Luckily, we the human being have an inbuilt something within us to judge our actions involuntarily- the Mighty “Conscience”. So, maybe we can define those acts approved by our conscience as “Right” and the others as “Wrong”.

If a child commits a mistake, it is not against his conscience and so, we may never take it as wrong. But, when we realize that we are doing something that may hurt or cause injustice to others or is immoral in any other way and still proceed to do that, the society around has every authority to classify us as a Wrong-Doer. Let us drift away a bit from how we are perceived by others. The truth is that whenever we know that we are doing something wrong, however daring or insensitive we may be, that little voice inside us pinches us and we do away our peace atleast for that while. The corrupted politicians or the terrific Dons, apart from the luxurious lifestyle and their every wish getting fulfilled can never mentally or emotionally sound as sub-consciously they know that whatever they are doing is highly incorrect.

When a Zehadi or terrorist kills, he is made to believe that such killings are good for their religion and thus, he takes it up as his passion and aim of life and that may not pierce him much to kill someone or destroy something as he feels that through these little injustices, he is uplifting his race, thus, satisfying a greater purpose. Similarly a brother or father slaying her sister or daughter in an act of so-called Honour Killing does that even when they have loved the girl since childhood just because they feel it correct to do for the sake of their caste or village. We may live in an educated and rational society to categorize both the mentioned acts as clearly incorrect, but, a peep through the tubular vision they see it would show us the angle they see that as justified.

Thus, we may interpret the whole scene as the society perceives something as “Wrong” when a greater part of it or rather when the educated or elderly people who have a say, infer the thing to be “Wrong”. In our day-to-day lives, there are many facts our friends call right and elders call wrong, particularly at teenage and early adulthood. It is clearly upon the situation to decide. In this world of Democracy, where every action is aptly viewed both in terms or its correctness and incorrectness, it becomes very clear that probably there exists nothing as such like “Right” and “Wrong”. Rather everything is equally right or wrong depending upon its usefulness and implications.

Thus, it is us and only us and our conscience that act as our permanent source of decision as right and wrong. If we are right for ourselves and don’t need excuses to validate our actions in front of our conscience, then, we need not care for the world. We are our own judge and that is the best way to live righteously and peacefully. After all, it’s better to be our own Master than the world’s servant.

Hope you found my views somewhat “Right”. Let me know what is “Wrong” according to you.

My Second Entry for today. Bye Bye.

THAT PANDEMONIUM TERMED "TEENAGE"

The transit from an ideal child to a mature adult is not a smooth track. It’s that period when everyone find us arguing on every other issue and we feel no one simply understands the fact that each moment, we are silently battling with ourselves for finding out why things cannot be way they should (according to us) and why the world is still bent upon considering us an irresponsible child and why we always need to consult elders before taking our very own decisions and why have to follow the old illogical constraints of the society and many more why’s.

Teenage is that time, when suddenly we feel energetic enough to take all the responsibility of ourselves and the need to change the world around us keeps on adding fuel to our ever-present enthusiasm. Before this time, we are obedient children in home and school submitting ourselves to the unquestioned guidance of parents and teachers. In early teenage, suddenly we feel that all that our parents and elders are saying just reflect their old-fashioned thoughts and whenever we present our views, the only ones to accept it are our friends and the feeling comes up that no one understands us.

In the way our parents view it, the child they adored is turning furious and defying the very people and rules he used to respect. Their child is going away from the world of goodness to a self-created world of so-called “Independence and Thrill”. Parents are quite correct in expecting us to align ourselves with the ideals of the society and become responsible and charactered Citizens of the nation, whom they can proudly call their creations. And they are never incorrect in hoping that we won’t be like other teenagers our age. Then, we also are in no way wrong when we try to respect our own ideals and it is this time that most of us begin to feel that our generation is different, thus, the brick of Generation Gap finally gets laid.

Gradually, we begin to feel that instead of constant arguing, it’s better if we keep quiet about our views in front of elders and parents also get tired shouting unheard advices and opinions and the difference between the generations goes on diverging. At that point, the teenagers begin to feel they are missing the support and familiarity at home which they had always taken for granted since early childhood. The sense of insecurity and indifference makes them silent at home and outside. They begin to feel suppressed and whenever they get a chance, they speak out or do things that they ought not to. The parents have no option but to tolerate all this. In short, what happens is neither the parents nor the children get a chance to clear things out. That is just one phase with what happens during teenage- the situation at home.

Coming to friends, each and every teenager begins to feel that whatever her or his friends are doing is correct. It becomes a trend to do all sorts of teen-type-things. Since it is that we cannot completely obey the society, why to obey it at all? We get a sense of security and understanding among our friends, who are also the victims of the same type of situations as we. Though in the early years of teenage, we live in our homes and thus, cannot manage to violate the society much, a time comes, when we move to Hostels and there, it is just we and ourselves to rule our world. Teenage is a phase, where you have all the zeal and energy to rule the world and at the same time, face pressures from all times or atleast feel bound from all sides. But, slowly surrounded by the limits, we learn to manage ourselves and prosper and it is only in this age that our bitter experiences teach us all about life.

Maybe this Teenage is that necessary evil that engulfs us as an untamed energetic individual and returns us as an experienced productive person. The enthusiasm at this age slowly gets channelized into efficiency and the eagerness to change everything around us lights in us the fire to achieve a lot in this life. The loneliness at this time teaches us enough to be emotionally sufficient for ourselves and the consequences of mistakes we commit without any shackles warn us for a lifetime. Before teens, we all are almost the same trying hard for same pre-recommended goals. Teenage introduces ourselves to us and our goals and interests, thus, making us realize what makes us happy in life and what should our goals be like irrespective of what the society thinks.

People all around the world may say that Teens are the most unbalanced and insensible. But, I would argue that balance and sensibility cannot be learnt unless we face the harsh realities of life in our teens. I would further say that teenagers are the most enthusiastic and they are the most productive. Teenage is that Golden Period of our life without which we are undone. Teenage is that lovely period of our life where we can enjoy ourselves our way without any responsibility. Teenage is that formative period of our life when we build ourselves up our way in an optimized manner. Teenage is that precious period of our life which designs our unique personality and shapes our ideals.

Now, I hope all pre-teenagers would love to await their teens, all teenagers would realize that what they are going through is just for their very better personality and all post-teenagers (what I would become soon) would realize how their teenage made them up this way and miss it.

Have a nice time and enjoy your age…

See you soon again with some more articles… Keep reading and commenting… Bye Bye…

THE WONDERFUL CONTROVERSIAL LOVE

"Love" is probably one of the loveliest feelings ever- be it any form and in the romantic form, it's a really ambiguous thing in terms of its validity and limits particularly in the Indian society and this controversy makes it the pivot point of Bollywood films... Probably, Indians are yet at an immature stage to discuss everything so clearly among all generations and this Blog Entry is just a part of one of the mails I once sent to one of my DAV Burla friends recently:

I was wondering what do people of our age generally think about love... At the time we entered our Colleges, we were pure children, who thought that those things which hamper our studies were quite incorrect... That type of things were regarded as total waste of time and fully incorrect... Slowly, we entered a different life when we moved away from homes, were covered with only friends, could exchange a lot of our ideas and most importantly, studies occupied a less portion of our time and priority, especially of Engineering students... It was the time when we felt we should break all shackles and do whatever we want... New couples formed in our Colleges and though initially we were critical of them, slowly their number grew so much and our very close and trusted friends were engulfed by our phenomenon that we console ourselves that there can be nothing wrong in such a thing that my friend Ms.X or Mr.X can do... In many people's life, people came who liked them and slowly some of them began accepting the proposals thus broadening the stream of committed people...

What I want to stress upon is the question that lingers in our minds as to why such a not-at-all-wrong thing is so much criticized by our parents and the elders in the society... The reason came into my mind after so much thinking and analysis... Earlier, our previous generations lived in a society in which marriages were purely on the basis of castes and sub-castes, the reason being that since a bride had to go to her in-laws house and be a member there from a very early age before she has realized what her own nature and  capabilities, it is needed that she be transplanted from her home into another home exactly same as her own... Since in early days, same sub-caste meant same social status, same economical status and hence, same lifestyle and greater ease of adjustment, arranged marriages within the same sub-caste was considered necessary... That time, society was not so much individualistic that anyone would dare to question the pre-existing rules of the society... Still, there were people who defied the rules of the society and the only option was eloping... Dis defamed love in the youth in the eyes of our elders... So, love was regarded as such a crime that it has still remained so in the sub-consciousness of the Indian society and any act is viewed in the line of degrading morality among the youth... That's the sole reason we were brought up by infusing in our minds that we should not love...

But, today's society is based upon the pillars of individual achievements and personalized ideals... In such a society, caste no longer defines our social standards and our lifestyles... In today's society, our tastes differ so much that it is not possible for anyone to understand us and obviously, our choices and interests are not decided by the home or society we are brought up in... The brides or grooms chosen by our parents are decided in a limited time frame and the validity of their being good and deserving of us is again based upon knowledge gained from common aquaintances of both families and there is no reason why anyone would speak against anyone unless there is any such serious reason... Even if the counterpart chosen is the best person, it is never needed and good and good go together... Two very good people need not be compatible and even if the other person is good, we may not be that good... After few years I think that if someone is a candidate for arranged marriage, maybe people would guess that he wasn't good enough to be in a relationship... I feel arranged marriages in India should be there only as long as we aren't able to choose for ourselves...

Thus, we live in a society that discourages love, but, can no longer afford to be against it after maybe a generation... After all, we are the descendants in the Land of Lord Krishna... He taught us every possible relationship that carries love be it between Mother and Child, Brother and Brother, between Friends or between two Lovers... How can a single face of the same noble thing bad... Love is bad when it is mean and wants anything back in return... Love is bad when it diverts itself from the sole reason of being for your Beloved and serving others with the humility that you gain from love... Selfishness, insecurity, possessiveness and dominance in love can never defame love because they are not love... They are the qualities which originated when people were in love, but, they can never be the results of true love... True love, be it in any form is always pure and it must happen... Let all people in live be blessed with the virtues of the Divine Feeling...

So, dear friends let me know what you do feel about this wonderful feeling... Let's agree that nothing done in the right way is ever incorrect and Love in a proper way is the greatest blessing ever...

MY UNIQUE TRYST WITH THE SKIES

It’s a fact that the very first time the roaring airplane takes you up into the air is always one of the most exciting moments to cherish and look forward to… I used to believe in my childhood that people sit above the airplane by holding both its wings just like we may imagine ourselves to be sitting on a big bird (not a not-so-creative imagination at that age by seeing numerous airplanes from the roof of my maternal grandparents’ house!!!) and this misconception was cleared when I visited Bhubaneswar airport (probably that hadn’t been named Biju Pattnaik Airport then) for the first time in UKG and I revisited the same place again only last year… On 10^th June, 2012, I had that much awaited moment in my life… I had to board the Air India Flight AI 729 from Kolkata to Guwahati, where I was going to have my Summer Internship…

Getting into a much bigger Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose International Airport with so many uniformly well-decorated ladies at the counters and a rush at every place amazed me out of my wits… After the Security Check and everything, I just moved to the Waiting Area near Gate 4 and had a really funny accident (well, can’t describe it here) and at the boarading time of 09:05 A.M., the gates opened and we before I could realize, we had entered the airplane… Wow!!! Unlike what I had seen at Biju Pattnaik Airport, where you climb a ladder to get into the plane… I had got Seat 1D and I guess very few people would have sat in the first row on their first flight… But, this was not a window seat!!! Oh no… Does that mean that I can’t view everything below me on my first ever flight??? I eagerly waited for the person at the Window Seat to arrive so that I could exchange pleadingly and to my very good luck, no one ever came there… And unlike elsewhere, the air-hostesses were in sarees!!! I thankfully and excitedly popped onto the seat, instructions were explained in a Dumb Charades style by the air-hostess and at the scheduled time 09:35 A.M., the airplane was pulled back by a vehicle much much smaller than its volume… Then, it moved forward this way, changed direction and again repeated all its previous movements…

And, the most surprisingly, it stood still with its engine on and after sometime, the engine stopped… What had happened??? We were told that due to some accident landing, the Runway at the Guwahati Airport had been blocked and we can’t move unless it is cleared… To keep off the people from shouting, we were served the breakfasts (two biscuits, one cup-cake and a half- size sandwich along with thankfully unlimited mini-bottles) though it was a cruel injustice to a growling hunger… Then, I did that think which I can guarantee no non-child had ever done or would ever do… I had a nap of around twenty minutes on my first ever journey in air even before the airplane had taken off!!! I got up to find the plane still there and the many small non-school going kids wailing out louder and louder… After again a long time, which I used up to read Safety Precautions and the Air India magazine, the reality came to us… No accident had taken place and the plane was waiting for two particular passengers and for this the whole plane had been delayed for more than two complete hours!!! It happens only in India…….

Finally, the Airplane took up and up and up… And my heart was elated like never before… Everything became smaller and smaller- the Airport, the nearby residential areas whose planning we can easily make out, the river which now appeared like a canal, the many forests and everything… I was feeling like zooming out on Google Earth… Simply fantabulous!!! Then, I marked some shining pieces almost on every house, which I infer to be window panes… Had never imagined they would ever look this way… Then, we had risen so up that the angle that things subtended on our eyes had began to change so slowly that I felt as if the plane is hovering at one place except some very less frequent horizontal vibrations… The whole River Hoogly slightly changed its position with time and the whole time, my eyes were stuck on the window glass on the seat I had luckily earned… After a long time of such a constant view, we entered the clouds!!! Amidst the clouds, the view was exactly like the “Swarg” in mythological serials, where the ornamented Devatas walk with their feet in cloudy smoke and the sky is perfect blue… Then, the plane turned with my-side wing rising up and the clouds coming down… can’t just describe that…

Then, came the majestic Bangladesh with almost all regions covered by forests or large fields and very less houses… Finally, we entered Assam, where we can see that all the houses have sloping roofs and gradually we were zooming in on Google Earth… The runway area came larger and suddenly the wheels of the plane touched ground at a very high speed… We zeroed in on Lokapriya Gopinath Badail International Airport, Guwahati…

Guwahati is a love at first sight… Large houses with sloping roofs and ample area covered with vegetation and water passed me in the taxi… Assam is real fun with words like “Senj” (Change), “Sha” (Tea) and “Sowmin” (Chowmin) and phrases like “Huno Hunao Life Banao” (you can guess that), where “Sha” pronunciation is replaced by “Ha” and “Cha” by “Sha”… People understand more Odia here than Hindi… I am loving it here and you must visit the North-East, if you want the real pleasure of sight-seeing and hospitality!!!

Bye Bye for now!!!

Enjoy yourselves!!!

MY FIRST MOVIE

...HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR BLOG...

Hello Everyone...

A Merry Christmas to all of you and wishing all a Happy and Enjoyable 2012 ahead...

And of course, wishing my dear blog a Happy Birthday...

Though much posts haven't gone into it this year, there promises to be more henceforth...

So, looking forward to an entry atleast every month...

Till the next entry in the next year, Bye Bye to all...